There are people say that marriage is amative both mind fit is rust together Nanfennanshe chains; someone says marriage is helpless fate, is Tianzaodeshe yuanguluzhai; also someone says marriage is a great school, complete personality, humanity transparent, non experienced experience of the marriage
DR REBORN.
- Sima Nan
Recently the divorce lawyer "hit, let me have a new awareness of marriage, frankly speaking I or a marriage of outsiders, like the" siege "of marriage I also in the city gate to wait and see if a siege .
I graduated from a law school, and it was a reserve of marriage law. Before the court is on duty in the case of divorce proceedings every day. The reason for their divorce is also different, some very puzzling. The affair and domestic violence is the most important reason. I have contacted the case is the woman to sue for divorce of, they to me said that marriage life miserable like hell is really can't live. At that time I thought about marriage is not easy, Ning removed ten temples do not split a marriage, think two people to be able to enter the marriage hall is certainly love, should not be to the point of irreconcilable, but I tend to be wishful thinking, can to the court in fact have to irreconcilable proportions .
A Western jurist said that marriage is a collection of property. So marriage is always at the beginning than the end who is more passionate, more than anyone unfeeling. The final analysis of the majority of marriage disputes is the property of the dispute. Marriage life is also economic life, the investment of two people and two people's consumption. When the true feelings of love can not be healed, the two sides will think of to split the interests, this is human nature. Anne baby said not to challenge and test the human nature, human nature can not afford these, it is necessary to preserve, room, block. We don't see for yourself how noble, therefore before drafting a fair agreement for marriage is a kind of preservation .
Standing on the man's point of view, "divorce lawyer", in fact, it also reflects some real problems. The marriage Is it right? Mendanghudui? What is the man's problem? Get out of the marriage man derailed the best punishment? These are worth our meditation. Has been wildly in a vulgar as a standard in the long feudal society Mendanghudui, I think it is justified, the background difference is two people is in the psychological will produce hierarchy and pressure. If can be matched for marriage, two people have a common topic of common interest to pursue the common, that might be impossible for a long time. Cleanse the family is not in line with the requirements of the law, two people whether it is love or breakup should be based on equal status, even if a party has fault also should not be deprived of all his property rights. Moreover, the fault of one party in the marriage can not be solely responsible for the party.
Derailment is an important reason for the high divorce rate, but I feel that the derailment and can not be the responsibility of all the push to the man. Social relationships are complex and there are many temptations. Human nature is the greed, desire is every control but can not be completely controlled. Each person's attention can not always focus on a place, so it is impossible to ask a man always to a woman in a daze. Now fierce competition, men's work pressure, life pressure are large, people in the face of pressure need is released, and if the woman doesn't get to considerate and caring man at this time again a man cannot resist the woman derailed is on autopilot.
Marriage experts say that marriage can tolerate at least one affair, because everyone makes mistakes. But when asked if his wife was found to be able to go to bed when he could not tolerate it said it was not tolerated. Like "divorce lawyer" in the play, Chi Haidong's wife Jiao Yanyan derailed when Chi Haidong chose resolutely divorce, and Cao Qiankun derailed when his wife Tang Meiyu forgive. This means that a husband and a wife derailment derailment is different. The influence of feudal thought for a long time, the woman is absolutely faithful to her husband to be back on the slut whore infamy. And long-term of the patriarchal society, men have the family on the woman's dominance, so derailed men can only be said to love infidelity alone back what infamy. This is the marriage of the husband derailed can forgive and his wife derailed zero tolerance.
